I Always Want Him to Change
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I realized while taking one of your quizzes that I am one of those people who say that if he would just change this or just change that then we would be okay. I love him to death, but I wonder if he will ever be motivated to something. Or if he will ever take me out when he says he will. This list could go on , but I don't want to drag on. I wanted to ask you if I'll know if this relationship is wrong or is it right? Thank you for your time.
What you're talking about is a normal stage of every relationship. It actually means that you're doing well in coming to accept him as a full person! Take a look at the stages a relationship goes through -
Yes, every person has their annoying traits. Some are always late. Some just never get around to doing chores. The lists do go on and on. But obviously these people also have many good things going for them too. Otherwise you wouldn't have dated him!
You need to learn to just accept him for what he is. Yes, he's not perfect. He's never going to BE perfect. No human being is. But the good things he has going for him are wonderful, and they make up for the fact that he is flawed, just like all of us are flawed.
So if he's always late, just build that into your timetable. Factor in an extra 1/2 hr as the lateness factor. If he forgets things, help him write them down. If something needs to be done that is important, do it yourself, or do it with him.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com