Crush on a guy
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am 26 yeras old. And I have had a crush on someone since I was little. And most of my friends rembers well that I had a crush on him. He grew up with my brother and I rember him staying with my brother alot. And now that Im older I can ask him out. It took me almost a month to find him and to be able to get the chance to go up and talk to him. Hes a football coach for little league. Well I told myself that I would go over there and talk to him but on the same day I was eating dinner and vomited all over my house. Not realizing thats how nervous I was. Finally one day I was on the phone with my niece and I told her that I wasnt gonna wait anymore. But that day that I went over there my friend told me he was watching me. My niece told me that he was talking to someone and I called back later that night cause I was feeling bad and wanted to appoligize in any case if he was married. I wanted to give him my number but at the same time he was being sweet and kind called me sweetheart and said it wouldn't be right if he called em while he was talking to her. I hung up. And well what I wanna know is, I know its gonna take time for him to talk to me and all but yet it's wrong for him not to talk to me when he has known me all my life and I him. Is there any way I can predict him to believe that I wont push him? I've got a friend thats gonna talk to him for me whenever he sees him, would that make it worse? I wanna know what I should do.
It sounds to me that you are starting to make good progress with what you have been doing. True, it hasn't gotten you as far as you would like. But at least you have talked with him cordially and he talked back. It won't hurt to have a friend who can mention you to him, but it is important that you continue to take charge of the situation yourself.
As you mentioned, be sure not to push him since you don't know what he is involved with right now. It would be good to find out if he has a wife through a friend perhaps.
Try to have casual conversations with him and develop a friendship before trying for more. It's much more natural that way. On the other hand, some couples skip the friendship stage and things work out ok. You will have to figure out by interacting with him.
-- from George
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