Making a Guy Like Me

Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Give me tips on making a guy like me so he'll date me. Advice
You can't make someone like or dislike anything. That is how they feel. The best you can do is present yourself in a way that he would find appealing. So say, if he loved heavy metal and black and chains, and if you went around singing heavy metal songs, while wearing black outfits with chains, you would fit into his world and he would find you appealing.

The problem with this is that 'like' and 'love' are all supposed to be about someone caring about *you* as a real person. Love is about two people who really care for each other. It's not about one person pretending to be a certain way to trick the other person into thinking they're something they're not.

Sure, I could give you tricks about ways to lie to guys, just like most teen mags do. Believe me, that never works. You can't pretend forever, the person you were lying to is really upset when they find out you were tricking them, and the whole thing ends in disaster.

If someone isn't interested in you, good for him! Let him go find someone else. Somewhere out there is someone who IS interested in you, and who really would like you exactly the way you are. That kind of person is the kind you can be truly happy with, and have amazing fun with. Life is way too short to waste it with someone that's only there before you tricked him into it.

-- from Jenn
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