Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Hello i am 16 and have been dating my gf for 5 months now. She is my first real gf. We have a ton in common. We get along extremely well. I know you prolly think it cant be l9ove but ud be amazed how close we r. We very rarely fight. And when we do its jokingly not taken to serious. Well on the outside to tel u the truth it really bugs me deep down. The biggest problem right now is my jealousy. I am jealous of everyone. Her friends everyone. I know she loves me but sometimes for some reason i feel like maybe she doesnt or she might stop loving me. This soon goes away. All i ahv eto do is talk to her bout any thing or look into her eyes and all the doubt is gone for an instant. I want to stop being so jealous cuz i kno it could ruin the relationship. its kinda of ironic i think the main reason im jealous is because my biggest fear is losing her. That one day it might end. And i mean lets face it how many people have a happy marriage that started with the first person they went out with for more than a week in highschool. but maybe this is one of those rare ocasions but wat if it isnt. Another thing is i see so many people that cheat and stuff. its horrible but it happens alotlately. I dont get that at all i would never ptu ne one through that ever. its the dumbest thing ive ever heard of. which idk why im worried at all i know my girl is samrt as hell and loves me. But i see it happening so much with my friends and ppl at school. idk. Another thing is i dont kno much about her xes. shes only had like 3 and i kno they were not for long. But i am extremely curious about them. I want to know about her xes but i dont want to ask her. I dont want to look stupid. I always do when i bring these type of things up cuz im always completely wrong. I want to stop being jealous. I want to build trust between me and her mainly me trusting her. I want to have a higher self esteem. Please give me any tips on how to do any of these things.
First off, I'd say that you are a very perceptive person and understand the causes and results of jealosy very well. The hard part is to get over it. The best approach I've heard is a system of building up your self esteem. You do this whenever jealousy strikes. You say to yourself positive things like "my girlfriend loves me."
Concerning the ex's, I'd drop asking about them. It will just make you jealous and who cares about them anyway?
Best wishes to you,
-- from George
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