Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
MY ex and I had a reasonably good break up but one that came swift and sweet. Not too long after our break up she was with someone else. She says it isn't serious but I should give her space. She still tells me that she does love me but she is not in love with me now and she still trusts me the most and she misses me, she also tells me she is happy and is always busy having fun. Her mom tells me that she never goes out anymore, she still wears my clothes and she is different. She has been seeing this other guy for 2 months now but yet she still behaves like this and tells me she misses me. She adimant that we can only be friends but why is she like this then. I can see she still loves me and misses me but she stays with her decision. The other guy I know for a fact is only after one thing and then he will duck and that is sex. I'm hurting so bad now and I don't know what to do. Her friend has also got the hots for me now and we are close friends but it is my ex's best friend. Her parents tell me how they don't like the new guy and wish that we could patch things up. She tells her friend that she is having fun with the new guy. Do you think I loved her too much and that pushed her away? Well I don't know if you can help but it would be nice.
I am sorry you are in this situation.
You ex sounds very confused. She still loves and misses you but is going out with another guy. I suppose she could just be saying those things to be nice to you. There is just too much contradictory information to make sense out of this situation. Her parents says one thing, her friend says another.
Do you think you loved her too much and pushed her away? I suppose that is possible, but you didn't mention any such behavior on your part.
Since you are still friends with her, I would advise you to continue your friendship and hope that the fire rekindles between you two.
Meanwhile, stay away from her friend who has the hots for you.
Sorry I can't be more helpful to you.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com