In love with counselor

Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
where do i start.i have anumber of falled relationships with a 35 yr old woman i was recently in a relationship for 18 months wich had its problems.we went for councelling wich in the short term did help but over a period of seeing my councellor i started to develope very strong feelings for him.i split with my partner and then went back in to councelling cut a long sory short i am in love with my councellor and the other week he admitted he had the same feelings for me.may i add he is married and says although he isnt happy he could never leave his wife as he cant hurt so confused i want more than anything to be with this man but is this typical married man not happy?i know this is wrong but im bloody cracking up here after years of crap i finally beleive with all my heart i have found my soul mate.probably niave of me eh.if u truly love someone what the hell do you do Advice
I am sorry you find yourself in this predicament.

This issue is very complicated by the fact that he is your counselor and you his patient. I am not a legal expert nor a professional counselor. So, you should ask your counselor what the legal and professional ramifications would be if you and he were to act on your feelings (for example have an affair).

I believe you will find that he has his hands tied. I don't want to judge your friend too harshly, but I think he should have referred you to someone else once you developed spoken mutual loving feelings.

One thing to be sure of before getting too deep into this is to double verify that he has strong feelings for you. It is possible you are misunderstanding his comments.

I suppose none of this advice is very happy for you. But it is the best advice I have.


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