She can't make up her mind

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
there was this girl,actually she's one of my friend but at first all of our friends know that i like this girl. i tried to court her and one day she says that it's ok for me to court her. but 3 days past my bestfriend (girl) told me that the girl i liked told her that it is inly because she was shy to our friends that's why she said yes (that i can court her) then i decided to move on but i really like her so i came back and ask her again. but this time i told her that it is ok if we are just friends and if she would allow me again to court her i want her to be true. if she would say yes and have doubts,maybe it's better to say no and be friends. but when i ask her she said that she doesnt know the answer. some says maybe she didnt want to make a mistake that if she said yes to me.she only want me as friend. and if she said no,what if she loves me? days past and no answer came to me,i always ask but its always the same answer "i dont know yet" so then i decided that better be friends coz i dont want her to be forced.. then one day when the guy she want's was been with her all day..a question came up on a joke when the two of us is exchanging jokes of our love that half are meant. "you love me? then why do you stop?" a gave her the plastic yellow flower then she sya's"if your love is this flower then your love to me is aritificial" then at night a txt on my cellphone came that she ask me "why is it that now i feel that i only want him to be my friend? maybe im not ready yet..." the guy she was talking to that is the guy she always tell to us that she has a make the story short late that day i started thinking.....would i continue or go on with her? or better be firends? pls help me!!! tnx godbless... Advice
You are in an uncomfortable situation. She is not answering your question, saying she doesn't know. Then there is the boy she has a crush on. It sounds like you have a wonderful friend relationship which you don't want to threaten. You have given her every opportunity to say yes to you.

My advice is to tell her that since she can't decide, maybe it would be better to just be friends. This will clear the air between you two and, who knows, she may then decide that she wants to be more than a friend.

Best of luck,

-- from George
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