Cheating leads to sadness
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I am a 36 year old female, who was involved with a married man, for almost 2 years. We were friends first and talked about every thing and became close friends. Then it turned into a romance... We are sooo much alike, we have sooo much fun together,we have amazing chemistry,we share our fears and our dreams,we can talk about anything and know that the other will understand. We have not consumated the relationship out of respect, thought its hard... We believe we are soul mates and he says no one has ever made him feel the way I do.( He is 37 ) I have ended it 5 times, cause I cant handle it. Though I would never ask him to leave, I want us to be together....Out of the 5 times, I went back 3 times, he came back 2 times...We have talked about what our life would be like if we were to be together . I have been in love many times in my life, but never have I felt like this... I do believe we are soul mates,but he wont leave cause he is affraid he wont see his son every day... He is 4 years old.. I am sooo devistated that I cant move on.. it has been 9 months, we talk sometimes, but its so hard. I miss him soooo much, and I know he misses me he tells me.What am I to do? I know I will never find a love like this ever...What advise should I tell him? Thank you...
Your question is so complex and important, I do not feel competent to discuss it in a forum like this. You need to seek the advice of a family therapist who can spend the time necessary to figure this out.
Sorry I can't be of more help.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com