Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been "seeing" a married man for about a month and a half; we met through my job where I am a waitress and he approached me about his intrest in a diffrent race. I am a single black female and he is an older married white man; when we first met there was an immediate attraction but we started out as friends then the "sex talk" began and then we slowly started to try to meet, more so while he was working (3rd shift).
Before we had sex we meet together (even if it was just for a moment) he called me and I called him, the first time we had sex he didnt call for a week; that issue was resolved we just recently had sex again and here again another week and still no phone calls. I try to call him (through voicemail) and leave a "just saying Hi" msg; no response the last time I called I didnt leave an answer I knew he was at work so I just let the phone ring and I hung up. I am new to the area (a very small) area so its hard to meet people; I am not in love with this man but he is my sole source of male compaionship right now.
What should I do about the situation?? I don't like to meet him in dark alleys and in the backseat of his car but at this point we have no choice should I be mad that he doesnt call??? should I be mad that he doesnt treat me like the friends that we use to be??? Please help.
It sounds to me like he is simply using you and then rudely failing to call or return calls. He also is not treating you as a friend. And he is married.
This all should make it clear that you should dump him and have no regrets. You will find someone new who is good to you soon, I am sure.
-- from George
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