Want my ex back
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
how can i start? about 4 months ago i broke up with my girlfriend of 21/2 years because we was arguing to much and i was stressed out at work and i just needed to get away from everything and focus on myself, my work and college and everything. I broke her heart and hurt her feelings very bad. like 3 weeks later i took her out for her birthday and after that we didnt speak for about a month. thats when i came back to her because i missed her and i found out that there might be someone else in her life. we spoke about it and she said that her feelings changed and that she doesnt want to be with me anymore but that she will think about it. a week later i spoke with her again and she was completely cold with me, she said that she didnt love me "in that way anymore" and that she is seeing someone else. she said to stop bothering her and leave her alone. after that i lefted her alone for a little while and i sent her a letter admitting everything, and asking for forgiveness and a 2nd chance because i know that i messed up but i wanna change and be a betta man for her. but she wrote me back basically breaking my heart, she said that shes sorry but she doesnt feel about me like she used too and that im just making things worse by calling her and sending her letters, she told me that i made her feel bad and that i didnt appreciate her and that she just tired of everything. she said that she found someone else that picked up the pieces of her broken heart and hes very good to her and she is happy. she said to never contact her again, ever. at that point i started crying and just completely depressed because i know that i broke her heart but i promised that i wanted to change and i couldnt believe that she let someone else in her life just like that. we spent 2 and a half years together, and we were happy for the most part, we never cheated, shared many beautiful memories together, we were eachothers first love, we had a really special relationship in my opinion, it was the first time we broke up and i dont what it to be that last. i felt that after 2 and a half years of being together that our love would be strong enough to get through something like this. i love her to death an want her back but im not sure if i will ever get her back especially now that someone else is in her life. right now im just giving her time, im not sure what to do or think anymore, i want her back soo bad to show her that i changed and we could be happy again. please give me advice, i am so sad and depressed right now please. i need guidence or something, what should i do????
I feel really sorry for you and think you are doing the right thing by giving her time. You are right that a strong love of 2 and one half years deserves consideration. Unfortunately, the pressures and stresses that caused you to break up with her came into your life.
It is also unfortunate that she found someone new so quickly. You can always hope that they break up and she will return to you. However, she sounds quite determined about not getting together again.
So the best thing is to wait and hope, but while doing so keep an eye out for a new love. Things can change in the blink of an eye.
-- from George
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