Close but not close enough
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Friend to Girlfriend, with more in mind.
I feel its pretty sad to have to come here for advice for my own feelings, as I'm normally a very independant person, but this time I must.
To keep things brief: I have a friend I am very much in love with, and want to make her more than a friend. While your normal page for making friends into partners may be of general help, this girl is one of the type of no modesty. She has already done most of your advice of what to do on that page to be, as a beginning friend. We have gone to movies, done restraunts, done comedies and romance movies. Its simply all been done. I have slept with my arms around her, but known I could do no more. There is much more she has done, but I'll keep it short, as I'm certain you get my drift: she will do anything besides things generally associated with actual...romantic relationships. That pretty much limits things to no kiss on the lips, no sex, and no full nudity.
I am older than her by 2 years, but at this age it is appropriate, as we will still have more than enough time to build a relationship before the end of school somewhat seperates us.
Please note, I seek more of the title of "boyfriend/girlfriend" than any physical manifestation of love. I wish for my chance to make the relationship more, without her simply taking it as a friendly...thing to do.
You are in a rather unique situation. You are very close to this girl, but without the title of boyfriend. Yet, in reality, it seems that you are her boyfriend already. The only thing missing is the lip kissing.
I will assume you have tried to kiss her with no luck. Why not ask her when she will be ready for kissing? She should respect your openness and honesty in asking that question.
Since you seem to be stuck on the kissing phase, here are some tips on kissing: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/1
Hope you can work your way into this girl's heart and become her boyfriend.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com