Clear up old relationship first
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I like this girl who is 17 and I am 23. I have just getting out of a 2 year long distance relationship, and I really like this new girl. I know this girl likes me or she did until a couple of things came up with my ex, which involves a baby but my ex and I aren't ready to have one yet. This may have scared off the girl that I like now, but I just want to be friends with my ex and thats it, as I don't have any feelings for her like she does towards me. So should I clear up all my personal business with my ex before I move on to the girl that I like now, or should I have not said anything with the 17 year old that was going on with me, but I thought she needed to know because she needed to know what she was getting involved with right? I think that you should keep everything out in the open so that there can be bond of trust in the relationship right from the start. So with this being said, I would like to know what I should do about this. As the ex and I are on talking terms and the 17 year old and I talk almost everyday. Should I cool it with the 17 year old till my ex and I have everything settled and then see where the 17 year old and I will take us when I can fully concentrate on her as being the center of attention.
You have suggested the answer to your question. That is you should clear up your relationship with your ex before continuing with the new girl. This is especially important since there is a child involved and also because your new girlfriend is upset by your old relationship.
Be sure to tell both women what you are doing. I admire your position on honesty in a relationship because that is so important.
I am not suggesting you have no contact with the 17 year old, but keep it to phone conversations for the time being. And, be quick about doing all this because it seems urgent to me.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com