What does she want?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Hi I'm 20 years old and i don't understand what my ex is up to. She left me about a month ago because she didn't want the long relationship anymore,she was feeling clamped down. She told me that she still loves me so much but not now. I accepted this and went on my way only to find out that she is now together with someone else (this happened about 4 days after our break up) she told me that it wasn't serious and i need not worry. (Why does she tell me this? I don't want to know) Now she is starting to contact me again and just last night she begged me to come to a dance recital. So i asked about the other guy and she told me that she wants me there and she really wants me to see her dance again. I went and watched and we had eye contact and a few moments. After the recital she went home. Didn't even speak to me. Why keep in contact and get all emotional and then do nothing. We spoke the other day because she wanted to talk to me about something and we chatted and when she had to go we still hadn't spoken about what she wanted to. She said we would talk again soon. We havent and i don't understand this because i hear she is still seeing the other guy. Do you think she is playing me or maybe she realizes that she made a mistake but is too afraid to try and fix it? Please help if you can.
I'm just as confused as you are. The only thing that comes to mind is that she has strong guilt feelings about breaking up with you and is trying to make things better. Or, as you said, she may have doubts about whether she did the right thing and is trying to keep in touch with you.
My advice is to ask her outright what her feelings are. You seem to be handling this well and I admire you for that.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com