Broke up

Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Last night I broke up with my girlfriend of 2.5 years. This is now our 3rd official "break." This was caused by her not having any time to hang out with me, but plenty for her friends, work, and soon school. I gave her the space she needed with her friends and backed off, but she just never showed me that she cared or ever wanted to hang out. So last night I talked with her and asked when she would have time to see me, and she said she doesn't know. So then we eventually got to the point where SHE thinks maybe a break is good, because I expect so much from her. Keep in mind I backed off completely these last 9days. And I know there is no one else. Anyway the fact that she broke it off before I did, in my opinion, kind of makes me feel worse. I feel like if I broke up with her she might realize how she screwed up, rather than breaking up with me and making me seem like the needy and rejected one. Do you think that's true? Another thing that bothered me is that this was all done over the phone, because she always had other plans. She said she would call me back after we hung up last night because she was just leaving work and never did. The fact that this was done over the phone gives me little closure, I feel the need to finish this in person at least. Is this something I should call and talk to her about, maybe meeting in person to say goodbye? Or is it in my best interest to leave her alone and allow her to contact me? Please Help...
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Yes, you would probably feel better if you had broken up with her, but that wasn't your goal at that time. Yes, you would get more closure and feel better if you could meet her in person to say goodbye. I hope she is comfortable with doing that for you.

I am sorry this didn't work out the way you had hoped. And I hope you find someone new very quickly!

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