Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
OK there is this guy that i like in one of my classes who is really really cute. my friend told him and he IMed me and i was so excited. this guy was from a different middle school than the rest of the freshmen and he doesnt know a lot of people. but i still like him. when he IMed me we learned a lot about each other those few hours that we talked but had a lot of silences where we didnt know what to say. thats my first question. Is having akward silences a bad sign. anyways, i looked forward to going to school the next day to see him but it turned out a hurricane was on the way and school was cancelled. we arranged to have lunch together when we went back to school. he said he would probably ask me out but he wanted to know me better first. i want to know how i can get him to be less shy and more easy going when we get back to school. thanks
Awkward silences are perfectly normal with many new relationships. Especially yours which seems to be moving quickly. What you can do is keep the conversation going if you can. Discuss what is on your mind. If there is an awkward silence, obviously that is on both of your minds ... so talk and laugh about it. Have a silly joke like when an awkward silence comes up one of you could say "Aaawk"
When you meet for lunch, expect the possibility of more awkwardness because it is often more nervous to be in person. Your idea (mentioned in another question today) of holding hand with him might work out ok. You might want to tell him that you like him a lot and ask if you could hold his hand. That way he will be forewarned.
-- from George
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