Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
My boyfriend and I were together for almost 2 years. The relationship was everything I could ever ask for---he treated me with so much respect and love, and was very patient, honest, and real. The problem was that I always doubted myself and never quite understood how I could deserve someone so perfect in my life, and I always thought that it was too good to be true. This eventually led me to get into the most ridiculous arguments with him, which I know are about 90 percent my fault. It got worse these past couple of months, and eventually I felt less care for our situation. Towards the end, I cheated on him by kissing another guy. About four days later I told him about it, and although he was very upset at me, he made such an effort to be friends. About a week after the breakup, he would still come over and hang out with me, and tell me he loved me, and we were soulmates. He said that as each day passed, he was more confident we would get back together someday, but not now because he wasnt ready. Well, things blew up one day because we got into an argument and I wrote a terrible email, and he stopped talking to me for about 3 weeks. Then I decided to visit him, and although he was angry about it at first, when we saw each other he hugged me and we were able to talk. Now, he says that he will never root against us being together, but although a small part of him always wants to get back together, a HUGE part of him wants to leave it up to God and see what He thinks should happen. He says its hard to kiss me or tell me he loves me right now, and more than anything he wants to be at least my best friend for the rest of our lives. I love him so much, and I know that he indeed is my soulmate, and I have told him how I feel, I feel that all I need to do is wait. He still believes that we are soulmates, but he reminded me that once I told him that just because 2 people are soulmates, it doesnt mean they will end up together. During the relationship he told me he loved me first, and talked about marriage first. he truly is the love of my life. What do you think the chances are, and how should I go about with this newfound friendship? Thanks so much and hope to hear from you real soon.
You say that 90% of the fights were your fault, you cheated on him, and later wrote a terrible email. So naturally he has pulled back from you now. Yet he considers you soulmates and wants, at least, to be your best friend for life.
You both agree that you should be friends and see what develops. I agree with this approach to the problem. My guess is that if you maintain a close friendship then you will eventually end up together again. After all, how often do you come across a soulmate?
-- from George
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