Flirting waiter

Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Person
I've read all of what was said about if a guy likes you on this site but I need to get advice for a specific situation so I decided to email this site.I can't tell the difference between a total flirt and someone who genuinely likes me.I met this guy a few weeks ago and it's been a little over a week since I saw him (I was on vacation).He's a waitor in a casino (my parents know the waitors and waitresses and security so as long as I promised not to gamble I was allowed in cuz I wasn't disruptive,I also look like I'm 21 with makeup)and he was being flirty with me for the whole week I was there when I went into the casino.I was thinking at first,he's a waitor he has to be friendly.But my mom was noticing he was coming over to me every night and finding someway to touch my arm and smile or wink at me while talking to me(and constantly referring to me as baby sweetie or babe).He even came over to the section I was in when his shift for one night was in another section.He came over just to see how I was doing and of course if I wanted anything (even though the other waitress in my section could have asked he made it a point to come over).Now the only problem is that he has a gf and they've been together for years.One of the waitresses told me,he didn't tell me.The fact that I think he takes a liking to me leads me to believe they've been together for too long and it's at the point where they're used to it and not really inlove. That Tuesday I wanted to give him my screenname and maybe see him again outside the casino,so my dad told me to invite him to dinner and fishing with him and my brother so it wouldn't seem obvious that dinner would be for me to see him.So I gave it to him then a little while later got tired so I went up to the room and to bed.He didn't end up calling and he was off wednesday and thursday but on thursday night one of the waitresses came up to me and told me Tim (the guy) was looking for me cuz he lost the number.So she called him from there and gave it to him.He didn't have time to call me though cuz she gave it to him at almost midnight that night and I saw him the next day anyways.I wanted to take pictures with all the waitresses and him(outside the casino of course lol)so I took one with the waitress who's on before his shift and she stayed (as my support lol)until he got there and she got him out to me to take a picture with me after I got done taking a picture with the other waitress I know.He came out all smiles and was like "hi baby" then he kissed my cheek and we took a picture.Then he told her to take another one.After we were done with the pictures he told me he had to get to work but he had to talk to me.So I was freaking out about what it was cuz I had no idea,so then he came back out and was apologizing like crazy he was saying "i'm so sorry I don't want you to think I forgot about you cuz I didn't I lost the number to the cell and your room number cuz it was written on a napkin" (which it was my mom wrote it,I wrote my screenname on paper).So I told him it was ok but asked if he lost my email address but he said "yeah I lost that too,no I'm kidding of course I didn't lose that".I asked for his and he gave it to me and he joked about his handwriting.He was being flirty all night and my mom was losing so he goes "well I hope she wins so you can stay" cuz she said if she won we might stay so I was flattered that he said that.I added him to my buddylist that night I got home and had to leave him a message because it's yahoo and you need to do that to add someone and I also emailed him a few days ago (I wanted to give it time so I didn't seem desperate).My dad had me email him yesterday with a question about playing cards but otherwise I haven't tried to be overbaring and contact him again.I'm just scared that he doesn't like me cuz I can't tell and I don't know if he's going to email me back.please help me figure him out!
Marissa Advice
Sounds like he has a crush on you, which is unfortunte because he has a long-term girlfriend somewhere. You should find out more about this girlfriend and if therer are any children. I am sure you don't want to be a homebreaker if that is the case.

Ask him openly what the deal with the girlfriend is... do they live together, how long have they been together, etc.

I think it is clear he likes you, but how much is the question. Perhaps if he replies to your email that will be a clue.

Meanwhile, don't expect too much from this guy. He definitely knows how to flirt and you are the flirtee right now. Time will tell more.

Best wishes,

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