Friends or not friends?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Hi, I'm 19 male and my question involves a female friend she is 17. Well we used to be just pals untill me and my Ex broke up and then we startd spending alot of time together. I though to myself that his was the beggining of a new relationship. Well to my suprise the issue came up and she told me basicly she wanted just a friendship. I told her thats fine but we cant be spending so much time together anymore then because it confuses me etc.. She protested and for a week after that or so we hung out and were attached to the hips. Well I got anew job and i havent seen her in a week and she would call every so often and talk with me, we both established the fact that we missed eachother. A day or 2 after that I went and saw her at work, just alittle hi, how r u type deal. Things were fine, i was giving her the gift of missing me and all that. Well a day or 2 passed again and one of her good male pals saw me and gave me a distinct look like he was all bad as and didnt like me. I called her that day and told her about him, she appologized for his actions. Now here is where things get messy. She had an ex b/f that she still was kinda seeing for botty calls etc.. and i told her i didnt like it because he is trash and i told her long before we really started to hang out that if she ever talked to him again we were done, id never talk to her again. Well when i called that afternoon someone asked who she was talking to and she replyed. Well i asked who it was and she told me no one, i asked again and she protested to tell me. Well i told her if she didnt wanna talk to me then i dont wanna talk to her and i hung up. I havent called her and she hasent called me in a week or so. What do i do now? wait for her to call? or back down? Is she even worth the effort to make things better if im not going to beable to date her like i want? Im lost HELP
It sounds like there's not much happening between you two anymore. You answered your own question when you said "Is she even worth the effort..."
My sense is that you two have had your run and it is over now.
Sorry if that sounds harsh, but my answer comes out of your question and your question is full of hints that this is not a relationship of your dreams.
Best of luck,
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com