Wants a bf/gf relationship
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I met this guy about 6 months ago in a city that I have recently moved to. At first I just wanted to be friends. But then we started hanging out alot and I started having feelings for him. One night when we were hanging out at his place he kissed me and one thing led to another and we slept together. We talk on the phone all the time and we hang out all the time. We have slept together a couple of times since then. But we still hang out like we are just friends with some flirting here and there. (we do not sleep together EVERY time we are together) I really like this guy but I don't know how to approach him about having a (boyfriend/girlfriend) relationship with him. I think that he might view me as just a bootycall and the thought of me wanting something more than we have right now would scare him off. It is getting to the point that I don't even want to be around him because it hurts too much. I have no idea what to do. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!
This is quite a predicament. But you do have some advantages going for you. You both get along well together and spend quality time together.
Have a non-threatening conversation with him and explain that your feelings are getting strong for him. His reaction should tell you a lot. If you don't come on too strong, it is unlikely that you will scare him away. If he isn't ready for a more than friend relationship, you will have to tactfully retreat with a light "ok, we'll keep it as friends."
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