No sex life
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
hey. Im in a long term relationship comming up on 2yrs and 8months. there has been good and bad times like any other relationship, we survived a break up about 3months ago, ive got through depression and she has got through her probs, despite all that we have been through we have been there for each other through thick and thin. after we got back together for the 1st month it was still fragile, but she told me that she still loved me more than anything and i felt the same. I decided that i had to stop being so dependant on her and i think i am doing well with that she even mentioned it herself that i am. since the split she has mad like a massive effort for us, and i give it in return. I have got to a place now where i feel the relationship is working properly. The thing is our sex life doesnt exsist. i know it is the not the most important thing in a realationship but it is a big part. the only girl ive ever loved and fell in love with doesnt want to have sex with me, i have been supportive and told her its no biggy and at first this was true, but now thats no more the case. i was thinking the other day how easy it wud b to cheat and get away with it, i wouldnt do that but that thought scares me coz i do not want to chuck away what i have. she did tell me that she would feel rushed if we had sex now, but its been about 6months since we last had sex.
She obviously needs more time before becoming intimate again. Ask her whether she considers sex important to your relationship and if so how long would she want to wait before renewing it. You can draw your conclusions from her answers. You should make it clear that sex has become important to you now and that you are confused by her relunctance.
But, be tender and gentle on this subject. Be sure to pick the right time and place for starting the discussion. Read these tips too: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveSCat/57084
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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