Dating a loser
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
i've been with my bf for a year and a half but it doesn't matter where we are i always see him looking at other women and sometimes he'll stop walking and stand ther and stare and watch there butts as they walk by i've tried talking to him and he either tells me that i'm crazy or that it doesn't meen anything that he loves me but it drives me nuts we always fight about this and sometimes it end up in a physical fights where i'll walk around wiyh black eyes and i want this all to stop because i love himm sometimes i want to leave for a couple of days but i'm afraid he'll cheat on me i'm very insecure and don't trust him at all how can i overcome this when we were first together just a couple of days my friend spent the night but we all slept in my bed and i was half a sleep but i could feel him tugging her hair and she told me later that he was trying to sleep with her i told him that she told me this but i didn't tell him that ifelt him trying to get her attention and this was a long time ago but ha denied it and said that that's disgusting and how could i ever think that he would do anything with her she told me that way befor we met he slept with her while his kids mother was sleeping but he denied that to were always together so he doesn't really have the cahance but i've always got my guards up he's twice my age and he trets me so good sometimes that i wish this stuff didn;t have to happen
I am so sorry you are in this miserable situation!
But hold on... your boyfriend gives you black eyes fighting over whether he is looking at other women? You need to leave him immediately. He sounds like a cheater and at the very least a liar. Why would you want to stay with someone like this. Drop him and you will find another love soon, I am sure. You sound like an intelligent and thoughtful person. Put those skills to work on your own situation. What would you tell your sister if she were in your shoes?
We have tips on jealousy which you might want to look at, but I really think you need to get rid of this loser. The tips are at: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/23682
Best of luck to you,
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com