Her husband calls her fat, but she isn't
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hello I am a 19 Year old wife I got married at the age of 18 My husband is in the navy And we just moved to a really small town I got a job in a gym And currently work out everyday well for a while now he's been calling me fat and ugly I am only 5'5 and weigh 135ilbs I am not at all fat and guys come and try to talk to me all the time I just ignore them but If some one is constatly calling u fat and ugly after a while You start thinking that I don't know what to I am gettting depressed and really is starting to think that I am fat even though I am not!!!
thank you for taking the time to read my email Thank you, Lonely
As you know, you are NOT fat. For "ideal weights" see: http://www.halls.md/ideal-weight/met.htm The definition of fat is 20% over your ideal body weight. You would have to weigh 156 pounds to be considered fat.
Could it be that your exercise has developed muscles where you didn't have any before? Possibly your husband is observing these areas of your body and feeling that you are overweight. Ask him where specifically he sees fat on you and that might help define the problem.
The real problem is with your husband. He should not be calling you fat (or ugly) because it hurts your feelings. There may be other issues involved that need to be brought to the surface. Since you have military privileges, take advantage of the free marital counseling available through the Navy.
Best of luck,
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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