Attracted to another guy
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
OK, I think I'm in trouble! I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I love him with all my heart, and I wouldn't do anything to jeopardize our relationship. However, I went on a roadtrip with one of my friends this weekend, and I found myself curiously attracted to one of her guy friends. Her friend and I got along well during the trip (as we have in previous events where we've been able to mingle), and I had a good time hanging out with him. I got the impression that he was also attracted to me, but he knows that I am in a committed relationship so no lines were crossed. He was flirting with me, and I was enjoying it although I didn't reciprocate it.
I felt a very strong physical attraction to this guy and could picture myself wanting things to progress further between us. But I really love my boyfriend very much, and I don't want to put myself in any position which would compromise our relationship, so I've decided that it wouldn't be a safe thing to hang out with this new guy (which would also mean that I'd be hanging out with my friend less because he one of her closest friends). Is this the correct assumption? Is it ok for me to be attracted to another guy while I'm in a committed relationship? Are these feelings that I am having a sign that I am losing feelings for my boyfriend (are these grounds for contemplating ending my current relationship)? What is the best way for me to curb this attraction I have for this other guy? Your advice would greatly be appreciated.
It is quite normal to feel physically attracted to members of the opposite sex even though you are already in a committed relationship. Don't consider this a reason for ending your current relationship. In fact, if you trust your boyfriend enough, you could discuss this attraction with him. However, if he is a jealous type, it would no doubt cause you troubles.
It's your choice as to whether you continue to see your female friend. You know whether you can deal with the situation or not. If you do, and you find that the attraction is too strong, perhaps it is time for a change. In that case, do not cheat on your boyfriend but break it off with him in an honorable manner.
-- from George
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