Girlfriend plays mind games
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost 5 months now, and I'm very confused if she's just playing with me. She talks about dating other guys while we're still going out and things, but thats not the main reason I'm talking to you.
She does things that just seem like too good to be true. For instance, last night while I was talking to her online. She supposedly went upstairs and supposedly her sister was talking to me.
I know her sister and her attitude, and her sister is much older, so I'm assuming she can spell.
So her sister supposedly came on and told me really personal things about my girlfriend that she claims to have read in her diary; such as "She says she could spend the rest of her life with you, even though shes only in 8th grade."
The whole time I was talking to her she made alot of the usual spelling mistakes that my girlfriend does. Also, she was being very nice to me which she has never been before.
When my girlfriend came back, she asked me what her sister said. When I told her I didnt include where her sister got that information. she said that the only place thats written is in her diary and that her sister wouldnt read that.
Tons of things like this have happened and I can never tell what the actual message coming across is, or if it's just true and hard to believe.
What should I do, if anything, and what do you think is actually happening?
Your girl friend is playing mind games with you. You shouldn't put up with that since a true romance is based on mutual trust and respect. Ask her what is going on with your relationship and listen very hard to her answer. If she isn't clear, ask again. Good communication is vital to a good relationship and it seems to be missing here.
Explain to her what your feelings are for her and how important you feel it is to know how she feels about you. Perhaps she will open up and tell you, but maybe she is just not ready for a strong relationship yet.
I wish you all the best,
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com