Six Years and Things are Fading

Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I have been with the same man for six years. In the past two years we have been going back and forth rather to stay together or not, mostly him. I love him so much that I cant see my life without him. How am I supposed to stop loving someone? how am I supposed to go out and see him with someone else? How can I make him love me the way he used to? Advice
There's a reason there's an event called the Seven Year Itch. After many years together, people settle into a routine. Human beings by their nature crave new and interesting sensations and a relationship is no different from anything else. So if you guys have let things stagnate, then you both would crave something new.

I have a TON of tips on the site about how to keep your relationship always alive and growing.

you can't just let things slide. If you do, they will slide into oblivion. You have to work every day (or at least every week!) on keeping fun in your relationship. Learn new skills, join a new club, go to new places. If you make your relationship fun and exciting, neither of you will have incentive to go seek a brand new one. But if you let your relationship stagnate, it'll be very tempting to start again with someone more interesting.

-- Lisa

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