He's Pulled Away - Long Distance is Tough
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I've been dating this guy long distance for 2 years....we live 2 hours apart and we see each other when ever we can....we recently had sum problems and he decided he wanted sum space from the whole relationship but he wanted us kee dating....after a month of this things seemed to be going good....then when i asked for more he pulled away again saying he could only be friends for now and although he loved me with his whole heart he wasn't sure if i was the one....he says he wants be be alone and doesn't want any type of relationshiop except frienship and he is not making any promises for a future for us cuz he doesn't want to break my heart by saying things he can't doesn't know....
he saysd somtimes love isn't emough and the disatnce thing is hard....this is hard for me cuz i love him so much and have 3 children( mine from a previlous relkationship) thast love him alot to....I don't know what to do....part of me wants to hang on and believe the love we share will pull us through....I think he got scraed when things became to serious with us and he wasn't ready....we had a few fights as all couples do and he says he doesn't wanna have fighting at all in his realtionships....the last time we chatted he gpot mad when i brought up a realtionship for us....he said he was not ready and not to look for things to happen with us right now and he said when he is ready to date he can't say it will be with me cuz he doesn't know hes confused....this hurts me when he says this....
should i let go of him and see if he comes back or keep the communication gong weith us and hope he sees what i see for us....i know he loves me....its thast we aren't on the same page right now.....we both agree we ahve a astrong connection and we want keep close....not on a dating level though....what advice do u have....;
Long Distance is *always* difficult in any relationship, especially for one that involves children. A long distance relationship for a short while can be survived - but after a while both people want to have "someone there" by their side. It sounds like he got to that point.
I have an ebook about getting your ex back -
but it really seems like the distance here is the issue. You two need to make a decision. Can one of you move to be with the other? If neither of you ever plans on moving, then it's not going to work. Either you both make the commitment to give this a real try - or it's best if you instead find people locally that you CAN be with to focus on.
-- from Lisa
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