I Want my Ex - I'm Living with Someone Else
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I want my ex back. It started about a years ago. Both of us came out of a marriages to be together. She has a daughter and I don't have any children. I loved her and she loved me. I started to get confused about our relationship because she is a good mom and spends so much time with her daughter that I felt left out. I was used to getting all the attention from my ex. So this selfishness of her time led to taking her for granted.
I wasn't sure if i wanted to be in the relationship, and I didn't treat her as well as i should have treated her. But we decided about nine months ago that we would buy a house together as an investment and if we end up as friends then we'll understand that. So about three months ago she finally was strong enough to break it off with me because of a new love interest.
Of course when that happens, I want her back. I realize the things I did wrong. And i've been treating her well and she admits that I am the person she would have wanted before she decided to move on. Now she tells me that she decided to move on and she has to stick with it. This last weekend we were still close and it was like we were together, but we both knew we weren't going to be. So today she pulls away from me and tells me that she needs to move on.
So what do i do now? I live with a girl i love but she doesn't want to work on the relationship right now. Do i stay away from her? Or do I stay close to her and act as a friend? Do I try to date? If i date will that harm my chances of being with her in the future? We do work together, and i think there is someone interested in me at work. Do i pursue that? I really just want my ex back.
I have a ton of tips on how to get your ex back -
and even a step by step ebook that can help you through this task -
But you have to be honest here. You are LIVING with a girl and are at the same time trying to get your ex back? You're in essence trying to date another woman? That's unfair to everyone involved. It sounds like you are still on the rebound and aren't putting a focus on anybody. You have to choose a direction for yourself and then pursue it. Nobody is going to trust you if you're just randomly playing with various women until you figure out what works best.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com