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Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Everytime i start to like a girl, something happens so that we neither go out, nor stay friends. I met a girl and i knew she was different. I went out with her 2 times but both times we broke up, it wasn't because of conflict between us which is odd. Now i'm not goin out with her but i've been trying to get over her by hanging out with other people. It worked for a while until summer when i don't get the chance to hang out with many people. One day she talks to me by aim and we decide to hang out. We watched movies at my house and i find that we're laying together on the couch and my arm is around her. I asked her wat our relationship was but neither of us really knew. She thought i liked a different girl and she was also trying to get over someone else. Now i find myself back where i started liking her again but this time i'm skeptical. I emailed her and told her how i felt. Normally we would've kept talking like normal friends but now it seems like she's avoiding me. It's been a few weeks since we've really talked and i'm wandering wat's goin on. I've emailed her a few times but i've gotten no replies. I don't want to call and make it sound like i'm desperate for a relationship or anything but i'm just so confused. I was once given the advice "Decide whether u want to be friends or a couple before doing anything drastic like telling them u like them and having ur friendship colapse". I decided i wanted to be more than friends and i told her how i felt but now i'm begining to regret it. Was wat i did right? whether or not it was, I want to know the best possible way to mend this problem. Thanx so much.
You are doing the right thing when you tell her the truth. But you are having trouble getting anything back from her. This suggests that you call her and ask to meet to sort out how you each feel about each other. If she is reluctant, then email her again and tell her how you feel. Ask her please to reply at least as a friend.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com