My Girlfriend is Avoiding Me
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
WELL MY GF AND I HAVE NOT SPOKEN IN ABOUT A MONTH AND I HAVE TRIED TO CALL HER MANY TIMES AND I CANT GET AHOLD OF HER IT SEEMS LIKE SHE WANTS OUT BUT I DONT UNDERSTAND Y
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
I MEAN I CALL LEAVE MESSAGES SEND HER MESSAGES AND NADA I DONT KNOW SHOULD I JUST ASSUME THAT WE ARE BROKEN UP OR WHAT I CANT WAIT FOREVER BUT I DONT WANNA LOOSE HER BUT I FEEL LIKE IM JUST BEING PLAYED THE FOOL HERE AND I DONT KNOW WHAT SHE IS THINKING OR WHAT I AM GOING TO DO PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR ADVICE ON WHA I SHOULD DO SHOULD I LEAVE OR STAY
This really sounds like she is treating you poorly. Part of the agreement you make when you begin to date is that you are mature to deal with all issues that will come up. Now you guys are facing a problem and her solution is to run and hide, and avoid you? That is about as immature as you can get.
I would write her a letter and ask her to lay it on the line. You deserve to know what is going on. Maybe she'll find it easier to write back her feelings, if she's incapable of telling you verbally ...
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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