I'm Jealous Over his Female Friend
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
How do i trust that a friend is just a friend? My boyfriend and i got into an argument over a female friend that is just a friend who slept over the house but he did not tell me until we were arguing. Even thought i know nothing happenend i am mad that he felt it wasnt big enough of a deal to tell me prior to it.
When friends sleep over he does sleep on the floor and he gives them the bed. I have to deal with this person on a ongoing basis and im starting to get angry just at the mention of her name. We have been together for 5 years and this person is more like his little sister. So how do i stop the arguments?
On one hand, it's important not to be jealous with female friends. There will always be female friends around. I have a whole how-to on dealing with jealousy here -
including an ebook.
On the other hand, a friend who is JUST a friend would be someone that is in your world as well as his. You would know every time he met with her because it would be "normal". It sounds like he is hiding her from you and having her over his house - SLEEPING over - secretly. I have to say, just about any woman I know would be furious to find out that their guy had girls sleeping over without telling them. That's just not right, honest or respectful.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com