Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
Hello again Jenn... I hope you are well. I wrote in a few weeks ago stating that my partner and I decided to take a break. That was on June 30th. We have not spoken since. She left for Europe yesterday with a friend. They will be gone for 16 days. This is the first time that we have been apart without seeing each other before we leave. We were together 4 yrs. I told you on the evening of the 30th, she said she loved me and that she said "you are who I want to be and I will be back." The problem was she hadn't experienced life as much as I have. It hurt but I understood. She wanted to be friends while she was experiencing life. I feel like such a coward, but I couldn't stand the thought of her dating someone else.
Her mother has been very positive saying that "she will get out there and do some things but realize who she really wants to be with (meaning me)" She tells me I need to hang on. But her mom says she does needs to experience life. She said my former partner has not been overly happy. Except for planning the trip to Europe. She hasn't been going out. Her mom asked her if she was ok not talking to me. She hesitated and said "yeah, but I don't want to talk about it." I just learned the other day she took our picture down from her wall and some other things I had given her. I know we needed a break, but I am afraid she is trying to forget me. What does it mean? Her mom also said to her (just trying to be light) "Hey you may get over to Europe and meet the love of your life." My former partner's response was flat and she said, "I don't want to meet anyone."
I don't know what I am looking for from you, Jenn...but my heart is breaking. Her mother said she has had a very busy summer traveling to PA because the death of her grandmother. Her mother tends to think after the Europe trip things will slow down and she will have time to think and miss me.
She cried when she left my house on the 30th. I died.
What can I do?
Thanks so much for your time....
Wait patiently and when she returns, try to resume a friendly contact with her. She will make it clear how she feels. Be patient, it may take a while for her to return to her natural self after being so far away.
-- from George
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