I Want our Love to Last
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
This concern's my girlfriend's and I relationship after high school. I'm 17 and she's 16. So I'm graduating a year before her and I know I love her but sometimes I doubt that someone at my age can come to that realization. I know I want to spend the rest of my life with her and she wants to also. I'm going into the military and will be gone training for the Marine Corps for over a year, and I need to know what I can do in the year I have left with her to make sure we stay together forever. Although we are young, we've been together for 8 months and I can honestly say we have morals and so much respect for eachother. We haven't had sex because we want to wait till marriage.
I also am proud to say we've never had a serious arguement, and although, what I'll be doing in the military will be very hard on us, and she knows that, she is trying so hard to make it work. So what I want to know is, what can I do for her to let her know that I will survive for her and show how deep my love is for her. I mean I am the luckiest guy in the world, and I want her to know that. Thank you so much.
Worrying about the future rarely does any good. There are no guarantees in life and nothing you can to do "prove" something will last forever. All you can do is live each day as if it was very important and show each day that your love and respect is there. If she builds that trust, honesty and reliability with you, then there will be little reason to doubt that the future will be any different. However if she sees things degrade over time, she will assume that it will keep happening.
The most important thing you can have in any relationship is love every day, love even when things are easy and tough. Don't go for gigantic gestures. Go for the small day to day meaningful ones.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com