She's Avoiding Me
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I've asked this girl out and she says she needs a little time but probbaly yes ok......well lately I dunno why but she seems to be giving me the silent treatment.Usually when I come online she'll start a convo real quick. But lately she hasn't at all,it's like she's avoiding me.
I asked her if I'd done anything wrong and she said no but I have no idea why she's acting this way. A small note I dunno if it'll affect question but I know she's recently gone through her period within last week of week and a half.I dunno exactly but that might be a factor.I dunno just seems like she's lost all interest in talking to me.
This started after I got drunk New Year's eve,I was talking to her drunk I guess but I didn't say anything rude or mean.I think that might be a factor but I was quick to say sorry about it next day,and she didn't seem to care.
As I've said she's broken up with this guy about a month maybe 2 ago after a 10 month relationship and she said she'd probbaly go out with me but needs a bit of time.I dunno what's going on here I really like this girl,and I think we'd make a great couple but lately after this I wanna know how we can get the flame of close freindship going again.I'm 15 years old and really in love I don't wanna lose this girl bcause I think she's the msot amazing girl I've ever met.
It may be that before she was on the rebound from her other relationship and thrilled to have another boy interested in her, and was very flirtatious. But now that she's getting over him more, she's being more cautious in who she actually prepares to start dating again and wants to take her time. It can take many months to get over a breakup, and if you are pressuring her at all by asking her to date or asking her when she'll be ready, it may upset her a great deal even tho she won't tell you.
Ease up and give her time. Just be her friend. When she's ready, she'll tell you. But if you keep after her and asking her, you'll seem more of a stalker than a friend and she'll start shutting down contact.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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