He's Using Me
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
My friend wanted me to start talking to her boyfriends friend(now ex) so i gave him my sn. We were talking for about a week and deciced we wanted to do something so i decided we could meet up at the fair. He said he wasnt sure if he could but hed try to make it...he ended up doing something with his friend. I didnt really care and he said wed do something this weekend.So we have been talking on the phone and on the computer everynight.
thursday he told me he was doing something with his friends friday and saturday so wed have to do something sunday. Then he called me friday and he wasnt even with his friends he told me hed call sat. and make plans.Sat. night i was with my friend and somebody called and was yelling and cussing at her and they wouldnt tell us who it was they just said tj(his initals). So i called him and he said he was asleep but hed call his friend and find out,he said it wasnt any of them but i found out he had a party that night so they were all over at his house and we think it was one of his friends that were drunk.So im really mad that they did that and that he lied.
To make it worse he never called yesterday like he said he would and we didnt do anything today.He keeps telling me he really likes me and he wants to do something(its always his idea to to something)but he never follows through with it.
Do you think hes leading me on? Should i be mad at him? And we talk every night at 11 on here and i dont know what to do... should i call him, talk to him on here and be mean, ignore him? What if he was really telling the truth...his friends werent with him!Also hes 20 almost 21 and in 16 is that too much of an age difference?
This guy is definitely using you and taking advantage of you. Someone who acts like this and lies while he is in the *courting* stage with you is only going to get worse once they truly start taking you for granted. Sure, he finds it's easy to talk to you when he has nothing else to do - but he's proving time and time again that he's just using you.
It's time for you to find a guy that treats you with respect and caring.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com