He is very verbaly and even sometimes physically abusive towards me
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years now and things have gone from bad to worse. He is very verbaly and even sometimes physically abusive towards me. We have never had sex because I want to wait for marriage and I feel he is frustrated because of that. Well, I recently took a vacation and met a 31 year old man (12 years my senior) who is in the process of divorce from his 2nd wife. We really connected and now I have feelings for him... meanwhile I still love my boyfriend but whether I would have met this guy or not, I am not sure I can spend the rest of my life with him. My boyfriend really wants to get married but I am scared that if I marry him, I will be abused. He is extremely controlling and possesive. I am really confused. Please Help.
Whatever you do at all, the first thing you need to do is get yourself out of that relationship. If he's abusive toward you, there is no way you should stay in it. You are worth far more than him and you deserve to be treated well. NOT how this guy is treating you. No matter if he says he loves you. It is not love at all. Love doesn't work like that. You need to leave him.
Experiencing the admiration of another man is wonderful. I'm happy that you met him. Definitely keep in touch with him while you get yourself out of this relationship.
Keep us posted.
-- from Jenn
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