i dont want the risk of losin him
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
i wrote (wut should i do cuz am really in luv n confused) 2days ago i have more q's if u dont mind n thanks for replying...i just wanna know how to know if his relationship is steady?cuz i cant talk to him about it..he doesnt know that i know about his girlfriend...and whats the best way of showing him the poem? should i send it in an e-mail..or should i show it to him my self when i'm at his house...because like i told you his sister is my friend...
and what do i do if he didnt react the way i expected him to? cause i dont want the risk of losin him and am scared of his rejection,cuz if he did,i wont be able to come to my friend's house anymore,or even face him after that....btw his sister n me have been friends for ten years...so i dont want anything stupid to happen to ruin it..i cant risk that either...am kinda confused...thnx again :D
Your best friend is his sister. She's the perfect person to be asking all of this. You might be afraid to lose her friendship after she finds out you like him, but she's going to find out eventually anyhow, so why not get her into this from the start, then she'll feel happier about helping you out. So tell her to ask her brother about his girlfriend. She'll be a wealth of knowledge for you.
As for the poem, bring it over on some fancy paper and show it to him and say, "so what do you think of this?" and see what he says. If he goes, "yeah, whatever" then you might not want to pursue this. If he says, "wow, that's great" say, well, I wrote it with you in mind. And then see what he says.
Yes, love is a risk. And it might be best to take the longer route of hanging out with him more and getting to be friends with him more before you spring this on him. But risks are made to be taken. He will be flattered by your attention. There's no need to feel awkward if he turns you down, he will like the fact that you asked after him.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com