The problem is i only see him as a brother
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I've been together with my guy for almost 3 weeks now. The problem is i onli see him as a brother, but when he asked me to be his girl, i said yes. I was thinking that even though i don't love him, being together and going out with him will change my feelings, and it will help me to stop thinking about this other guy (my best friend and also my crush since last year)..
last week, i decided to introduce my girl friends to the old guy and they went out on several dates...When she told me how great he was, and the date was awesome...my face went red right at that moment..I was JEALOUS..when i got home, i even cried...I still have strong feelings for the old guy, but i don't wanna break up with the new one...He is such a great guy and he does everything to make me happy...what should i do now?
You are in a relationship with your new guy and you should focus on it and try to make it work if at all possible. If you truly do not feel in love with him and instead view him as a great best friend / brother, then you have to be honest with him about that. Tell him that you value him and his friendship and that you wish him the best in finding someone who can give him what he wants, and that you simply can't do it.
And separately, if you decide to break up with the new guy, then you have to figure out how to handle the old one. You admit that you like him and feel jealousy about him. It might be worth giving another shot and seeing how it goes. You'll never know until you try. And he may very well be feeling the same about you.
I wish you the best!
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com