all of a sudden he broke up with me
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
i was going out with this guy for about a year and all of a sudden he broke up with me i was totally heart broken crying saying no you cant do this to me what did i do ill change i promise he said he wasnt ready for something so serios we never went past kisssing he was so perfect i never felt pressured or anything then he said maybe im making a mistake maybe ill realize that i love you and cannt live without you and i know ill always care more for him then hes ever cared for me but its been like a year since ive seen him he still writes me and says i love you and im sorry about everything but what my question is do i have a right to be angry when he knows im still in love with him and he writes that he loves me just so ill keep holding on or is it possible for him to still love me just not want to be together and i cry all the time over him and i can tell he doesnt love me but i keep holding on to something thats not even there why!!!!
You need to sit him down and get him to give you a solid answer for where his head is. He's jerking you around right now and that's not fair to you. He should say whether he loves you for true or not. And if he does, then he should go out with you again. If not, then he should leave you alone so you can move on with your life.
If he says no, to move on, then you need to put your feelings for him into a box and realize that they're never going to get you what you want. You need to tell yourself every time you think of him that it's over and you will find someone new that will give you what you need and deserve. He's not doing it for you now. He can't be perfect otherwise he wouldn't be causing you all this pain. There is someone perfect out there for you that will make your days wonderful and your nights blissful. You need to find out if this guy can do that for you, and if not, you need to find someone who can.
-- from Jenn
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