i don't know if he believed me or not but i can't control that.
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
the other night my boyfriend, and his two friends and I went to a movie. me and my guy didn't sit next to each other (long story, nothing to worry about) and i sat inbetween his friends. One guy is a touchy feely guy like myself, and so we ended up getting really close and doing things that we really shouldn't have done. i talked to my guy after the movie and he thought me and the touchy feely guy were making out and i told we hadn't, for we really hadn't. i don't know if he believed me or not but i can't control that. I want to tell my guy but this other one doesn't want me to beacause that would jepordize his and my guy's friendship. should i tell my guy or not?
Most importantly, do you want to tell him? If so, then don't care what his friend wants or doesn't want. Your first loyalty is to your boyfriend.
If you were doing things that you know you shouldn't have, then yes you were cheating on your guy. Understand that point. Now, going forward, what will you tell your guy? What do you feel comfortable with? Will you be able to keep it from him and live with yourself? And what happens when your flirty friend gets drunk some night and spills the whole story to your guy? Will you be able to handle the betrayal your guy will feel about being lied to the whole time?
Find out how you feel about the whole thing and figure out what is best for the relationship. Then go ahead and do it, no matter the consequences. You know what the right thing to do is.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com