He's In a Different Clique
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Hi there...I really need advice.
Ok...im just a regular eighth grade girl...but if someone asked you who was the shyest girl in our school it would probly be me. Anyways, back in seventh grade there was this one guy who i didn't even know. Then one day he came up to me and asked my name. I told him and ever since that he he would constantly wave to me, look at me, hold doors for me, and say hi to me.
You may be thinkin, *well gurl oBvIoUsLy this guy likes you!* thats what i thought. but what if he also flirted with every other girl in the whole school? He does. But over all the girls he sweet talks and hugs and says *hey sexy* to he seems to hold a real respect for me...and seems to pay so much more attention to me than he does others. I mean, what kind of guy that was just being nice would persist at saying hi to me everyday, and constantly sitting near me and trying to start conversations with the shyest girl in school who doesn't even answer him usually...if he didnt want me?!
now i know your thinking dat same thought again...DUH HE LIKES YOU!!! well im sorry but this guy is really unique! i cant make heads or tails of his behavior! he is just SO friendly i dont know if hes flirting or JUST being nice to me?!?! he is nice to alot of girls...but still i feel that ~*GUT*~ sensation that says your special to him. I dont know what to think.
I really have a crush on this guy...and first off I would like to know is this guy REALLY...ReAlLy CrUsHiNg back?!?! but if he is...why hasnt he asked me out after two years?!?! am i TOO SHY?!?!?! but another thing...WE ARE IN TOTALLY DIFFERENT CLIQUES!!! that is a problemo. HELP ME!!!!
In high school cliques seem like the end of the world, but in reality they mean nothing at all. You'll find in life that people who end up in cliques do so for really bizarre reasons and that once they get free of high school, they mix COMPLETELY differently. So the fact that this guy is in a different clique really means nothing at all.
It could be he's shy, who knows why he hasn't asked you out. I would keep being friends with him and find out a movie you both really enjoy a lot. Then mention to him sometime that you really want to go to it and see if he takes the bait. You can just go as friends but that's always a great way to start :)
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com