I can't get over my ex
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I can't get over my ex, even though it's been two years since we've broken up. It was a very bad break up that he just broke up with me out of no where. He was very controlling and not the right guy for me but for some reason I can't get over him. I've tried to mend things with him several times so that I can move on, but each time I just get even more upset about the situation. Any suggestions?
Any relationship breakup is going to have long-lasting feelings going on with it. So that's normal, if unfortunate. But you can get over your ex without having to patch things up. I'm glad you recognize that he wasn't the right guy for you, this should make it easier to get over. Not easy, but easier.
Treat your relationship with him in the same way that you treat your high school experience. You value what went on in high school, you enjoyed your time and your friends and then when you hit graduation, you remembered high school fondly but you'd never go back to it. Look at your relationship as done and over, and something to remember fondly but not something that needs to dominate your world and life now. It's done. Let it go.
-- from Jenn
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