she began to neglect me
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
it all started three months ago when my girlfriend and i started having problems, she began to neglect me and not want to spend time with me, and we went on a break because she was unsure of what she wanted, and ended up getting back together but nothing changed she still treated me the same, so we went on another break, we were apart for one wee and we got back together and had along talk about our relationship and we agreed to stay together. the next day i left for a week long trip and on that trip i met this girl who treated me exactly how my girlfriend used to, so we started talking and one night she kissed me. well i was confused and i had no idea what to do so i made a mistake i called and told my girlfriend it was over and asked the other girl out because i was so guilty about cheating, well this casued alot of problems back home, my ex-girlfriend and i were very bitter towards each other and i would almost show off my new girlfriend in front of my old girlfriend to make her jealous. this went on for two months, which during those two months i still loved my old girlfriend. my third mistake was that my new girlfriend asked me to have sex with her and i did. but the next week i talked to my ex and i told her how i felt and asked if we could be friends again. after i talked to my ex i broke up with my current girlfriend. no i have spent the last month trying to get my ex back, how do i prove to her that i wont do that again, because i wont, i realized what i lost during those two months. just yesterday i convinced her to mabye give a trail period where we go out and see if it would work. but now she has been hanging around a solider(i live on an army base.)she says that she just likes to talk to him, bu ti think she is going to wait until were going back out and try to get even with me, am i worrying over nothing or should she not hang out with him?should we even give it another try?
First off, you can't control her actions. She has every right to hang out with whomever she wants.
If you fear she is going to use him to get back at you, there is only one way to tell, go out with her again and see what happens. If she does use him, see what happens after she breaks up with him. She might want to get back together with you. Hopefully nothing will and then you two can start acting like adults. Grade school is over. End the games.
-- from Marc
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