I've been dating this guy a year, but he never told me he love me, even though he told me he missed me.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I've been dating this guy a year, but he never told me he love me, even though he told me he missed me. We met once a week but every time we met we would go out dinner and then we just had sex, but he treats me so nice when i was with him but i didnt like it when we jsut had sex almost everytime we met. One more thing is he is 10 yrs older than me and he dont really like to communicate that much. One day I found I got pregnant and I couldnt have any choice and he said he loved spending more time with me but he was not really for baby yet cus he was not financial stable yet. Even I didnt want to i still did it ( aborton). I need help . Should I still be with him or should I break up with him? i donno know wat to do
This is a difficult subject and I'm not going to disrespect you by glossing over it.
It seems to me that you met a nice guy who wanted to fulfill his desires, but didn't want to be a jerk about it. He took you out, he treated you well and then you had sex. This, in a way, aleviated the guilt. He never told you that he loved you probably because he didn't and he didn't resort to using that line like some guys in order to get you into bed. He also told you he wasn't ready for a baby or a relationship. He's basically been pretty honest with you up to now.
He also says he enjoys spending time with you, and given his actions and his words, I'm sure he does. The think you need to do now is find out where he wants to take this relationship. If he just wants to keep it where it is (dinner and sex) and you are not happy with that you should think about moving on. You have spent a year of your life waiting for him and you shouldn't have to wait for someone who may never give you what you want. You deserve more than that.
Then again, he may want to develop a real relationship with you, in which case that would be great. If that is the case, move at the speed he is ready to move at and don't press to move in, etc. Since he is 10 years older than you, I woudl assume he's divorced (I could be wrong) and maybe he has some remaining issues with his ex that he needs to get over.
I'm sorry I couldn't give you a simple answer, but I hope I've given you enough to help you make an informed decision.
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com