If i see her move on to some other guy its going to tear me up
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I just gratuated high school and i know i have the rest of my life ahead of me, but i just got out of my first real relationship. She was the first one i have ever loved, and i want her back so much, i cant sleep at night i cant eat im throwing up and all that stuff. She does competitions for karate shes the naska world champ and she hasnt been winning lately and she says she wants to train more. And im fine with that so of course im gonna let her train but then she starts shutting me out of her life, and doesnt answer my phone calls or e-mails or anything she says shes too busy. Then after a tournament she called me on the phone and said we needed to talk so i went over there and she dumped me saying that she wants to win the world tournament again and she needs more time to train. She says she still loves me and still wants to be friends but she has no time for me right now, but she wants to take a break from being friends. I dont know what to do i want her back so bad and im goin crazy thinking about it. Any advice on gettin her back? If i see her move on to some other guy its going to tear me up. I dont think ill be able to take that. I dont understand if you love someone how you can shut them out and say you have no time for them? Please i need some advice im going crazy. Thank you for your time.
There's nothing you can do at this point. She's focused on getting her world title, and everything else has to take a back seat. All you can do is wait it out and see if she comes around again. Be there for her, send her love letters, talk on the phone when you can, and be patient. She's going through a lot.
If you can't do this, then that is very understandable, and no one will blame you for backing off and finding someone new. It's not what you want to do, but you must realize that this is how life will be with her for a long while, and it takes a lot out of a relationship to compete with a competition.
-- from Jenn
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