she is totaly oposite of my ex girlfriend
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hi there! I just recently broke it off with my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years due to age problems and me wanting to have fun in my life and enjoy it before it's to late. I also came to realize I wasn't totaly being honest to myself or her because I was having problems dealing with her lifestyle and her parents. (she has a very bad home life). I am 21 and she was going to be 18 soon. Anyway I basicaly changed my life around and now I am going out on the town and calling up old friends and getting out in the world and having fun! I love it. I meet this girl at my work and we have been going out and having a good time. She is 21. I am totaly shocked and tickled because she is totaly oposite of my ex girlfriend and someone that I think I need in my life right now.. She is really outgoing and trendy. While I am sort of shy and not used to being with people like that. That is one part of my life I would like to change and I took a big step in the last week in doing so. I am trying not to take it to seriously and just have fun but it seems like we are starting to really like each other already. She told me that she wishes I could feel what she feels when I am near her, "it is amazing" she said. What I am scared of is this... her lifestyle is a little to outgoing sometimes, she is always doing something. She likes to party a heck of a lot and I know I shouldn't be speculating but it semms like she would be the type to cheat and sneak around. And she has a baby to her ex bf of about 1 1/2 years which she recently broke off too. I already meet her family and everything seems great they are very nice and outgoing to. She explained everything about the baby and her ex and basicaly her life to me and I do accept those parts. The reason she broke up is he started to get mean and jealous and never let her do anything, he told her what to wear and what not and got upset when she hung out with her family. She still talks to his family and him for the babys sake. Anway what I am trying to say is this is all so overwhelming to me. I never did so much new stuff in my life in the past week..I never had such a girl in my life like her that really likes me but at the same time has a busy life and does tons of things. I really do like this girl. My question is should I play it low key for the time being and see what she does? I just get the feeling like she may be playin me or doesn't really like me like she says she does when we are alone together? or am I taking things way to seriously in the first week or being with her? Please help me :)
She's been very honest with you. That counts for a lot.
Also, some people, after getting out of a repressive and abusive relationship like to make up for lost fun. That's ok.
When she tells you she cares, tell her how that makes you feel and how you feel towards. Tell her that you don't think you can party as much as she does and ask her if that is ok.
Since she's been so open and up-front with you, I doubt she is the cheating type, just make sure you aren't Mr. Rebound.
-- from Marc
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