i have been dating for four months and now he wants to do more stuff

Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
okay my boyfriend and i have been dating for four months and now he wants to do more stuff like he wants to finger me but i duno if i should let him...should i let him do it or should i tell him to wait??? please tell me whats right??? is it normal for us to act like best friends now that its been four months??

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Four months, particularly at your age, is way too soon to be getting that physical. Particularly if you don't know whether it's something you want to do or not. If it's the right time, then you will -know- that it's the right time. Anytime you're wondering, that means it's the wrong time.

Give your relationship some more time to grow and enjoy the stuff that you do now. Your boyfriend is probably getting pressured by his guy friends to do more with you, and he is not thinking of what -you- want in the relationship. Don't give in just because he wants to, or you'll feel used later on.

Yes, it's normal to act like best friends once you've gone out with someone for a while. The flashy 'in love' feeling fades and is replaced by a great wonderful closeness like best friends. You might talk with him about this, because he may be asking for more physical contact to try to regain that 'in love' feeling, which won't work the way he thinks it will.

good luck!

-- from Jenn
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