my girlfriend broke up with me due to some issues that she did not like about me
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
well is been now a year and 5 months, today is Monday june 28 2004, and my girlfriend broke up with me due to some issues that she did not like about me and i will mention in a bit. Look, i am 21 and she is my first real relationship; before her i was pretty much into partying with my friends, getting with as many girls as i could, " i mean it is collge". Anyways I love this girl, there is no words to describe how i feel about her and since i met her i have been more serious about life in general and I preffer it like that, than all tha t partying. going back to my story she broke up with me on friday, and i really love this girl and i know she loves me a lot, and her friends tell me she is not feeling good, she is like trwowing up and all that yucky stuff. Im not going to give up so easy on her, so i been trying to contact her and send her flowers text messages, but still she send me a letter that she does not want any contact with me for a week, and her friends tell me she has not made out her mind on either leaving me or givin me more chance. she told me to evaluate my-self on my trust issues with her "jealosy" which i am with the help of your page, also my anger, and my maturity and that she would see me on july 5th so we could talk. i been going crazy since then, i have not been eating or sleeping and i been browsing the web to help me out with my jealosy, i mean i am doing what she has asked me to do, im evaluating my self i admitt to my problems and im working on them. So my questions are.
Should i give her the no contact time she gave me, or not, do u think she would take be back, even though she knows i am working on my problems, and if u would like to add other comments to help me it would be great! :( thanks for your time, help, and patience
Follow her wishes, but stay on the path of self-evaluation.
It may be one of the issues was your impatience.
The only fair thing to ask her when you do meet is whether or not she will be willing to give you a chance to show that you've changed. If she wants to break-up without giving you a chance, walk away and don't say a word. Just leave.
You are only 21 and regardless wether or not you stay together, you've learned about yourself and relationships. Don't be bitter, just use your knowledge and make your life the best it can be.
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com