Well Y started kissing Z and he didn't know what to do well... He ended up having sex with her!
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
My Boyfriend Z was with his friend X and X's girlfriend and her friend Y. They were all drinking and other stuff and went over to Y's house and were all hanging out in X's room and then X and his girlfriend went into another room and Z and Y were left in her room! Well Y started kissing Z and he didn't know what to do well... He ended up having sex with her! And then over the next few days when he was with me all he could do was think about what he had done to me and broke up with me because he couldn't stand what he had done and he didn't want to hurt me! Well the thing is, Z only told me that they kissed when he broke up with me because he didn't want to hurt me anymore then he had already. He never told me the whole story, he didn't tell me that they had sex! I had a feeling, but I didn't know! But I love him and he loves me! He makes me the happiest person and we were broke up for 6 days and they were the worst for me! All I could do was cry and lay in my bed! We talked about things and we both love each other so much, and we didn't want things to end, so we got back togehter! Well... now about a month later, we were talking and I had been wondering the whole time exactly what had happend between him and Y, so I asked him and he told me in detail which I explained in the beginning! But he told me about him and her being left in the room and the kissing and stopped and started getting all teary eyed and then tears started streaming out! And I knew then that, there was more to it! He told me and I hugged him and told him that it doesn't change how I feel about him. He told me that he doesn't understand me! Because he had been so scared to tell me the truth because he was worried that I was gonna break up with him and just walk out of his life! But I did the total opposite, I told him How much I love him and that I forgive him! He told me not to forgive him that he doesn't deserve that! And I told him that I don't feel that I need to punish him or try to get back at him for what he did! He's honestly punishing himself enough! And I know that most people would just walk away in a situation like this, but I can't bring myself to do that! I am so deeply inlove with Z! I can't imagine not being with him! My friends tell me that I should just walk away and forget him, but it's not that easy! I'm so confused I don't know if I should listen to my friends and just walk away, or listen to myself and stay! I'm so inlove with him I just can't imagine what I would do without him! HELP..............
First off, congrats on acting like a mature and enlightened adult.
Now, if you truly forgive him, don't worry about it and let it be. If he says he doesn't deserve it, tell him he's human and makes mistakes, but this is the only time you will forgive him. If he does it again, he doesn't deserve you.
-- from Marc
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