I have been reading somse of the stories about jealousy and i have alot of the same problems that they do.
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I have been reading somse of the stories about jealousy and i have alot of the same problems that they do. I am a thirty something female who has been in past relationships that the partner was cheating on me and lied about it. Well i have been married now for almost a year to a wonderful man who i believe is my soul mate, but i still have issues with jealousy. My husband works as a DJ, and that is where we met, and i get sick to my stomach every time i hear about his job and the girls that work there. This bar that he works in is a college bar (dance club)where all the girls are these young skinny things that do almost anything to take a guy home. I know, i have been that age. I find myself going thru his cell and wondering who he is calling and talking to, i do all the things that you are not supposed to do as a married couple, i know that i am supposed to trust and have faith in him, but it is so hard. We are very much in love and i believe that he would never cheat on me and i would NEVER do that to him. I need help in trying to over come this jealousy or it will destroy our relationship. how do you get over what has happened in the past and not bring it into this relationship. Do i have a self esteem issue, am i really seeing myself as not being worthy of his love because of the past? I love him and do not want to lose him to anything.
Lots of great questions. Only you can answer them and by asking them it seems like you know what the issues already are. Don't be afraid to see a mental health professional.
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