He Goes from Hot to Cold
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been involved with this guy on and off for a year. I really love him but I don't know how he really feels about me. We will get back together and everything will be great for a month or so and then he backs off without any reason and then he will come back as if nothing happen. He will go weeks without us going out or calling. We have not been together sexually in over six months. I really love this guy and he says he loves me. Do I just walk away until he can make up his mind and be with me completely?
If you really love him then it's time to start talking to him about this. Love is about weathering the ups and downs - but it's also about talking when you have issues. If you just ignore them and hope they go away, they rarely will.
I have a ton of advice on the site about how to have a serious conversation. Follow the instructions for setting the scene and having a long talk with him. Find out what is bothering him and then work on resolving it. If you just hope it'll fix itself, it's more likely that he'll drift away and not come back. Relationships are about two people who actively work on keeping things going.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com